Man with a plan
My good friend, Mike, has been having relationship problems. His girlfriend of two months broke up with him for the fourth time, so they've been going back and forth with each other about the "state" of their relationship and their future. She wants to the perfect man, however, he's not perfect (not that anyone is). Her biggest concern now is that he doesn't have a job and it's not because he's a lazy man. Basically, he's a full time college student and he get's a stipend of about a grand a month for his living expenses from the GI Bill. Granted a thousand dollars is not a lot to live off of, but a person can make it work. I've heard of ppl living off of less than that with children. I will say that he manages his money horribly (spends way too much money eating out, and going to movies), but for the most part he does have stable income. But with a good woman guiding him I'm sure he would be fine. We talk all the time about his finances and I can almost say that if we were together that grand would almost always been away into savings. He's a wonderful man and he does more for me than some of the guys that I date.
He was crazy about his girlfriend and he believed that she was "the one." He wants a wife that he can love and cherish and treat like a queen. We've only been friends for a little over a year and in that short time I've grown to know that he is a wonderful man. He would be the ideal mate for me if it were not for my non physical attraction to him. Also, he's really really really into churh and I'm a sinner, and I had that problem with my ex, so I wasn't going to go there again. So, finally on Monday he text me to tell me that he and his girlfriend has broken up for the last time. He said he was done and even though he was heartbroken, he was glad that it was over because there was way too much stress by her pressuring him to get a job and not seeing that in two years he would be done with school and will be able to get a better job then than he could get now. Also, he was upset over the fact that she get's jealous over every woman that he associates with. I'm sure that she can't stand me because we do spend time together. We don't spend as much time together as we used and that was because I respected the fact that he had a girlfriend and that he needed to spend time with her, but we still talked on the phone and I took him out when he and his girlfriend were fighting.
I guess I understand the whole "gotta have a man with a job" concept, but I told him that I disagreed with the fact that she was pressuring him to get a job when he was a man with a plan. Yes, he didn't have a lot of money now, but if they did decide to get married, they could have made it work until he was done with school. I'm no stranger to skimping and I'm sure that if it were me, i'd have a pretty good amount of savings by pocketing most of his money and living off of what I make until he graduated. I'm not against supporting my man in his dreams, but apparently some women don't see it that way.
He was crazy about his girlfriend and he believed that she was "the one." He wants a wife that he can love and cherish and treat like a queen. We've only been friends for a little over a year and in that short time I've grown to know that he is a wonderful man. He would be the ideal mate for me if it were not for my non physical attraction to him. Also, he's really really really into churh and I'm a sinner, and I had that problem with my ex, so I wasn't going to go there again. So, finally on Monday he text me to tell me that he and his girlfriend has broken up for the last time. He said he was done and even though he was heartbroken, he was glad that it was over because there was way too much stress by her pressuring him to get a job and not seeing that in two years he would be done with school and will be able to get a better job then than he could get now. Also, he was upset over the fact that she get's jealous over every woman that he associates with. I'm sure that she can't stand me because we do spend time together. We don't spend as much time together as we used and that was because I respected the fact that he had a girlfriend and that he needed to spend time with her, but we still talked on the phone and I took him out when he and his girlfriend were fighting.
I guess I understand the whole "gotta have a man with a job" concept, but I told him that I disagreed with the fact that she was pressuring him to get a job when he was a man with a plan. Yes, he didn't have a lot of money now, but if they did decide to get married, they could have made it work until he was done with school. I'm no stranger to skimping and I'm sure that if it were me, i'd have a pretty good amount of savings by pocketing most of his money and living off of what I make until he graduated. I'm not against supporting my man in his dreams, but apparently some women don't see it that way.
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