Research
I believe I have found my research topic for my dissertation.
I've been working with young people, many whom are low-income, at-risk and their family environments are not the best. Sometimes in talking to these young people, the are so defensive when it comes to providing sound advise. Many times, they have it in their minds what they need to do or where they need to go. Of course their solutions are not the best, but I've learned that if I'm providing good, positive advise and they are saying stuff like, "I know, but" or "Yeah, but I was going to" or "Well, I figured that I would" then I knew that my advise didn't matter to them because they had made up their mind to do what they wanted to do, right or wrong. Most of the time it was wrong.
So I started thinking about that. Some young people just don't want to listen. Then I started thinking about why? When you are assisting them with learning to make wise decisions, why won't they just listen? Not talk back about what their plans are or what they think they need to do, just take it in and listen.
I've noticed that about myself. When I was growing up, I had it all figured out. It's only now that I realized I should have listened to some of the advise that was given to me. I've noticed that now I keep my mouth shut and just take in the advise because I know that I don't know what to do. However, some young people haven't come to that revelation.
So I got to thinking why is it that some listen and some don't. When I work with young people from families whose parents are involved, they tend to listen to my advise more than young people who have had to "make decisions" on their own because for the most part their parents have not given them instructions.
Therefore, my study will ask the questions, do people who have had very involved parents, make better decisions within their life than people whose parents have taken a sort of "hands off" approach when they got to a certain age? I believe that some parents allow their children to make decisions for themselves put them in a situation where they have to figure things out which leads to detrimental decisions. Of course I"m not talking about hovering over your children so that they can't live and grow up without being able to think on their own, but I know teenagers who have to make decisions about stuff that their parents should be assisting them with, but their parents won't for whatever reason. I don't believe in helicopter parenting, but I also don't believe that children should be left to themselves to make decisions where they need assistance.
Somehow I'm going to formulate this research and it's going to culminate into a book.
Happy studying!!
I've been working with young people, many whom are low-income, at-risk and their family environments are not the best. Sometimes in talking to these young people, the are so defensive when it comes to providing sound advise. Many times, they have it in their minds what they need to do or where they need to go. Of course their solutions are not the best, but I've learned that if I'm providing good, positive advise and they are saying stuff like, "I know, but" or "Yeah, but I was going to" or "Well, I figured that I would" then I knew that my advise didn't matter to them because they had made up their mind to do what they wanted to do, right or wrong. Most of the time it was wrong.
So I started thinking about that. Some young people just don't want to listen. Then I started thinking about why? When you are assisting them with learning to make wise decisions, why won't they just listen? Not talk back about what their plans are or what they think they need to do, just take it in and listen.
I've noticed that about myself. When I was growing up, I had it all figured out. It's only now that I realized I should have listened to some of the advise that was given to me. I've noticed that now I keep my mouth shut and just take in the advise because I know that I don't know what to do. However, some young people haven't come to that revelation.
So I got to thinking why is it that some listen and some don't. When I work with young people from families whose parents are involved, they tend to listen to my advise more than young people who have had to "make decisions" on their own because for the most part their parents have not given them instructions.
Therefore, my study will ask the questions, do people who have had very involved parents, make better decisions within their life than people whose parents have taken a sort of "hands off" approach when they got to a certain age? I believe that some parents allow their children to make decisions for themselves put them in a situation where they have to figure things out which leads to detrimental decisions. Of course I"m not talking about hovering over your children so that they can't live and grow up without being able to think on their own, but I know teenagers who have to make decisions about stuff that their parents should be assisting them with, but their parents won't for whatever reason. I don't believe in helicopter parenting, but I also don't believe that children should be left to themselves to make decisions where they need assistance.
Somehow I'm going to formulate this research and it's going to culminate into a book.
Happy studying!!
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