Family Blues
Last school year my sister got expelled from school because she threatened the assistant principal. She was upset because he suspended her for something that was a misunderstanding and instead of staying home during the suspension which meant that she would have had to tell my mom why she was staying home, she decided to go to school. She was almost though her third day of suspension when one of her teachers noticed that she wasn't supposed to be there and sent her to the assistant principal. She got an attitude and threatened him and he expelled her. She didn't get a hearing for being expelled, he simply told her not to come back and he called my mom. According to what I've learned she was expelled illegally. All students in Illinois public schools have a right to an expulsion hearing. She wasn't afforded that right and from what I've heard she was never taken off the roster.
Because she was expelled she was making plans to go to job corp which to me was a really good idea. I figured that it was a program that would be able to provide her skills that she needed to get a fairly decent job while she is young and deciding what she wants to do with her life while she got a GED. Also it would give her a chance to leave home to see other places and other people and hopefully be motivated to do something with her life. But, her plans were being blocked by my mother. She had her hopes up, was being organized by getting the things that she needed in order to sign up for job corp, but because she is a minor she can't get most of the things that she need: state ID, birth certificate, etc. My mother has to provide consent to get those things. My mother refused. My first question was why? Of course I didn't ask my mother because I'm a wuss. But, my other sister didn't flinch when she asked why she couldn't take the opportunity to get out of the ghetto by going away to take advantage of this educational program. My mom's explanation was that my little brother needed someone at home to be there when he got home from school and to babysit him during the summer. So she wasn't allowed to finish her education because she had to babysit. What kind of mess is that. I was flabbergasted. On top of that she couldn't get a job for the same reason. I guess she was supposed to home school herself. My sister on the other hand figured that my mother didn't want her to go to job corp because she didn't love her and she wanted to see her fail. I refused to believe that. What mother would do that to a child. Children are supposed to be arrows that are shot into their future. She was being shot down.
Since then my sister got a letter from the school saying that she needed to enroll in classes. She got excited because she had a chance to finish school. She was shot down again by my mother telling her that she couldn't go back to school because my mother thought that she would get kicked out again. Surely my mother was blocked her future. My sister has always had attitude so because of her belief that my mother didn't love and didn't want her to finish school, she had a major attitude problem. The boiling point came not too long ago when my sister and my mother got into a physical fight. From what I was told my mother told my sister to clean the kitchen and my sister didn't clean it to the specifications that my mother wanted her to, so my mother got upset with her and told her to go to her room. Later that evening my sister came up to get dinner and my mother told her that she didn't deserve dinner because she didn't clean up like she was told. My sister got an attitude and my mother didn't like the attitude so she attacked her and my sister fought back. My sister then left to go to my grandmother's house to stay. I was deeply saddened when I heard this story. Because a similar thing happened to me when I was a teenager. I'll blog about that later. My uncle told me all of this and was asking me what I thought he should do since he was staying there with them. I told him that I didn't know and that I'd think about it and talk to him about it later.
Today I talked to my uncle and he's informed me that my sister has moved to Iowa with my other sister. He and I both agree that that's not a good idea because my sister in Iowa is a single parent who is simply going to use my little sister as a babysitter so that she can run the streets. We know this because this is what she does when she comes home. She drops my neice off so that my little sister can watch her and she leaves and no one knows when she would be back. Also, I'm sure she won't be encouraged to go back to school. I told my uncle that I would call my little sister to see if I could convince her to go to job corp, but the issue would be if my mother would get what she needs to do that. We'll see.
Because she was expelled she was making plans to go to job corp which to me was a really good idea. I figured that it was a program that would be able to provide her skills that she needed to get a fairly decent job while she is young and deciding what she wants to do with her life while she got a GED. Also it would give her a chance to leave home to see other places and other people and hopefully be motivated to do something with her life. But, her plans were being blocked by my mother. She had her hopes up, was being organized by getting the things that she needed in order to sign up for job corp, but because she is a minor she can't get most of the things that she need: state ID, birth certificate, etc. My mother has to provide consent to get those things. My mother refused. My first question was why? Of course I didn't ask my mother because I'm a wuss. But, my other sister didn't flinch when she asked why she couldn't take the opportunity to get out of the ghetto by going away to take advantage of this educational program. My mom's explanation was that my little brother needed someone at home to be there when he got home from school and to babysit him during the summer. So she wasn't allowed to finish her education because she had to babysit. What kind of mess is that. I was flabbergasted. On top of that she couldn't get a job for the same reason. I guess she was supposed to home school herself. My sister on the other hand figured that my mother didn't want her to go to job corp because she didn't love her and she wanted to see her fail. I refused to believe that. What mother would do that to a child. Children are supposed to be arrows that are shot into their future. She was being shot down.
Since then my sister got a letter from the school saying that she needed to enroll in classes. She got excited because she had a chance to finish school. She was shot down again by my mother telling her that she couldn't go back to school because my mother thought that she would get kicked out again. Surely my mother was blocked her future. My sister has always had attitude so because of her belief that my mother didn't love and didn't want her to finish school, she had a major attitude problem. The boiling point came not too long ago when my sister and my mother got into a physical fight. From what I was told my mother told my sister to clean the kitchen and my sister didn't clean it to the specifications that my mother wanted her to, so my mother got upset with her and told her to go to her room. Later that evening my sister came up to get dinner and my mother told her that she didn't deserve dinner because she didn't clean up like she was told. My sister got an attitude and my mother didn't like the attitude so she attacked her and my sister fought back. My sister then left to go to my grandmother's house to stay. I was deeply saddened when I heard this story. Because a similar thing happened to me when I was a teenager. I'll blog about that later. My uncle told me all of this and was asking me what I thought he should do since he was staying there with them. I told him that I didn't know and that I'd think about it and talk to him about it later.
Today I talked to my uncle and he's informed me that my sister has moved to Iowa with my other sister. He and I both agree that that's not a good idea because my sister in Iowa is a single parent who is simply going to use my little sister as a babysitter so that she can run the streets. We know this because this is what she does when she comes home. She drops my neice off so that my little sister can watch her and she leaves and no one knows when she would be back. Also, I'm sure she won't be encouraged to go back to school. I told my uncle that I would call my little sister to see if I could convince her to go to job corp, but the issue would be if my mother would get what she needs to do that. We'll see.
This entry was posted
on Tuesday, July 18, 2006 at 11:37 AM.
You can skip to the end and leave a response.
» Post a Comment