30 Something

Mel and I have been friends since about 2004. He's told me about his past relationships and I've been there for him when girlfriends have left him. At one point, he was interested in me, but I let him know that I was not interested in him. He left it at that and we became friends. Since 2009, I hadn't talked to him. But recently about 3 months ago I ran into him and I needed his help with some things and he came to my aide. He also told me that he had a girlfriend and I was genuinely happy for him, but I still needed his help. I never disrespected the fact that he has a girlfriend and I don't make it a point to spend as much time with him as we did earlier in our friendship because I understand his priority to her. He loves her and wants to marry her, but we are still friends and I think she has a problem with that. I don't want her man, but she believes that we shouldn't be friends. This has caused him distress because he still wants to be friends. I know that now she should be his best friend. I'm not trying to hold on to that spot. I'm okay with being friends afar. I'm okay with not hanging out. I'm okay with not talking on the phone. That doesn't define our friendship. I just want her to be okay with him helping me when I need him, not that I demand his help because I don't. He simply steps up and says he could help me. I say, ok and thank you. That's It. And it's not like I ask for his help everyday or even every week. But he gets tired of her low self-esteem that has her imagining that he has some feelings for me. He doesn't at all. He talks about her so much that I want to ask her why she's not marrying him!!! I want to tell her so badly to not miss out on a good thing because if I had a man that loved my dirty drawers as much as he loves her, I would be down the aisle in a flash. He wouldn't have to ask me twice!!!

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