30 Something

When I first met my ex, he mentioned to me that he would like to see me tied up. I thought he was joking and he looked at me with a stern face and told me that he was serious. I was nervous. I thought that people who were into BDSM were freaks and abusive. However, as I got to know him I learned that it wasn't the case. It was indeed an alternative lifestyle, but no different than some of the other kinky stuff that people do for fun--love cuffs, spanking, tying each other up, etc. So he was expressing to me how he enjoys inflicting pain and how he enjoys a submissive. He then went on to tell me that he would never do it if there was no consent and for the most part we've never really gotten into it even though I know that he likes the lifestyle. I let him tie me up and spank me; we've even played with candles and clothes pins once, but that's about it. However, recently I've been flirting with him about doing a little more exploring to see what I would like. From what I've been reading a lot of those relationships are driven by the sub. The sub set the boundaries and tells when the play must be stopped. The dom must get to know the sub in order to meet the sub's needs. So I've been telling him that I want to broaden my horizons by exploring some things that I may like. He's agreed to introduce me to a few things. I can't wait.

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