30 Something

My sister who is 17 has been living with me since January. Up until this past week she's been almost perfect. She cooks, cleans, does the laundry and goes to school and doesn't have an attitude about anything. Despite all of this, she's bored out of her mind. My solution was for her get a job. She will be 18 in September and she only goes to school for half days so she has all the time in the world to work. McDonalds is within walking distance to where we live, so it seemed like the perfect place to work, but no, she's not "may I take ur order" material. For some reason, she's too good for McDonalds, so she's been trying to find a job any where else which has failed. Plus, she has this "i'm the baby girl, everyone is supposed to take care of me" mentality. Because she's a very pretty girl with the body of a 25 year old, she get's hit on by a lot of guys, which I've told her time and time again that she needed to be careful about the guys that she meets. I also told her that she has no business dating anyone over 20--she's only 17. I've met several of the guys that were interested in her and the seemed to be nice, but this one that she has the hots for I do not like at all. He's 21 (or so she said) doesn't work, has bullet holes all over his body, wears a gold grill in his mouth, says he wants to be a rapper and says he hustle his cd's out of his car. She's been hanging out with him for the last couple of days and yesterday was my last straw. My instructions were that if she leaves the house and I'm not there, leave me a note telling me who she's with and a phone number. Well, for two days she left and there was no note, so my solution was to lock her out if she did it again. I guess she finally got it because she decided to leave me a note before I could lock her out. This was okay but last night she took it too far. She called at about 8:30 and asked if she could go to St. Louis with this guy. I asked her where she was going to be staying. She said his aunt's house. I told her that she needed to call home and ask if she could stay with family instead of his aunt. She agreed. However, at about 1 in the morning I decide to call her. She said that they were going to stay at the hotel. WHAT? That wasn't the plan. I asked to speak to him and he didn't know what was going on. They kept saying that the concert was at 10 in a club (she can't get into any clubs at 17) and he didn't know where it was going to be and they were going to his aunt's house. I was hot. So I went to sleep trying to think of a master plan. I got up this morning and called her. She said that they stayed at his aunt's house. I told her that I was disappointed and that she should have planned this better. I then told her that I was coming to where she was, but she couldn't give me an address to where she was. I then looked to see when the concert was and found that it was 7:30 not 10. this wasn't adding up. So instead of getting upset I'm just gonna lay it down for her, if I can't trust her to tell me where she's gonna be and when, they she can't go. Her other option is to go home. I'm not her mother i don't want to worry about her. Maybe I'm selfish, but I don't need to headache. If she thinks that she can do what she want when she want, then that fine, but not here with me.

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